Did you make New Year’s resolutions this year? Are you one of the scoffers who maintains that no one keeps resolutions anyway so it’s a silly practice – or do you cave into the romanticism of the whole thing and do it anyway?
Most of my family belongs to the scoff party, and while I agree that the concept of resolutions shouldn’t be limited to a couple of days at the beginning of each new set of 365, there’s something tantalizing about the year ahead. Like a blank diary, all crackly-stiff leather, with cool, slippery pages begging to be scribbled over with ink. Or like a map with an idle compass in the center – you just have to choose where you want to go.
So I’m going to fall in with the masses this year. While these aren’t “new” resolutions, this will be the first time I’ve inked them onto paper. (<< I actually wrote this in the back of my planner, so I did really use ink!) And because I’ve become a compulsive organizer, I’ve categorized my resolutions this year. Does anyone else do that????
Practical Plans (ie: these had better get done or else)
-- get better about time management and organization. I cannot stand another year of racing out the door late to work, while the front door bangs shut on the sea of chaos inside. I’ve discovered from keeping other people’s homes clean that I’m not a messy person – I’m a clean person who doesn’t know how to stop making messes. A lot of this has to do with time and burnout too – there’s not a ton of incentive to power through cleaning late at night after I’ve spent the whole day doing it somewhere else. There isn't much time either. And I have a toddler. Clearly, I need some concrete strategies here.
-- find more patience. Do you have some I could borrow while Hunter is in the throes of toddlerhood?? When H was born I swore I would never yell at him or discipline him when I was angry. This year I failed on both counts. Somehow I need to learn to be as patient at home as I am at work – even when we’re late or he won’t sleep or he pours his food over his head right as we’re about to leave for work or he’s screaming on the floor and I don’t know whether he’s in pain or throwing a tantrum. I am meeting with two family counselors to try and strategize ways to maintain parenting calm even under extreme stress. This is my second-most important resolution for 2013.
-- figure out what I am doing for work/school, and decide whether or not I want to graduate 6 months early or go a bit slower and start working part-time as a CNA.
-- learn to like myself. Okay, that one probably belongs more in the Impossible Dreams category. Or perhaps When Pigs Can Fly. Seriously, though, while I suspect liking myself is a looooonnnngggg way off, I would at least like to negotiate a truce with myself. A bit of acceptance would be a place to start. And no more of the I’m-so-stupid-I-hate-myself-I-hate-myself mantras.
-- make God the solid base of my life again. I hate being a stormy-weather Christian. I want to teach Hunter about being a child of God, and to do that, I need to be one first. (This is the most important resolution!)
And then I have the I Would Love To category…
-- run five miles without walk breaks. Survive. Do it again.
-- write again. Fiction. I want my head filled with characters again. I feel them at the edges of my mind, pale-ghost faces and WHAT”S THAT WORD fingers tap-tapping at the windows of my imagination. Even if it’s only one short story, I want to hear that gorgegous cacophony of story-on-the-brew in my brain.
-- make a new friend. An honest-to-goodness live-in-my-town, go for coffee, workout-partner friend. Randomly: why on earth don’t they make “friend-ing” websites? Forget about a date - all I want is a friend!
-- have one day, even just a few hours, where I am just me. Not mom or student or employee or daughter or any other label. Just me. I’m envisioning either a gallop across a summer-thick meadow with the strong-tea smell of horse sweat in my nose, or perched at the top of a "peak" of the Porcupine Mountains, just me on a rock under a clear blue sky.
That's where I'd like to take my year...what about you? If you made resolutions, share in the comments, please? If you blogged about them, even better - share the link!